Speaking Up

Being a doula means that when estrogen-driven bodies are on the line, not only is it impossible for me to be silent – it’s irresponsible.

Abortion is a multi-faceted and sensitive topic for many. Still, it is not the right of our government, or anyone really, to take away the agency we have over our bodies because of something that they don’t understand or disagree with.

 My heart breaks to think of all of the women I have known who considered or needed to turn to abortion, and how impossible it was for them to make that decision. And contrary to popular belief, not all of them are teenagers who messed up. A large percentage of women who seek abortions are mothers who can’t imagine the financial, physical, emotional, or whatever strain another child could bring to their family; women who have escaped abusive situations and given up everything to do so. Really, it doesn’t matter why someone chooses abortion. What matters is that we are not (yet) living in The Handmaid’s Tale, and I’m sure a lot of us would really like to, you know, not.

 If you are feeling angry and restless – good. If you are feeling overwhelmed and scared, I encourage you to practice self-care, and then reach out to your people and make a plan for healing and action. If you don’t have people, I encourage you to reach out to me. Seriously.

kelsi@doulakelsi.com. You are not alone.

 

For those ready to take action, here are a few things you can do right now:

 

DONATE:

Yellow Hammer Fund 

“The Yellowhammer Fund provides funding for anyone seeking care at one of Alabama's three abortion clinics and will help with other barriers to access (travel, lodging, etc.) as well as able.”

 

 National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health

“National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health (NLIRH) builds Latina power to guarantee the fundamental human right to reproductive health, dignity and justice. We elevate Latina leaders, mobilize our families and communities, transform the cultural narrative and catalyze policy change.”

 

 Power to Decide (who are also major players in the movement to make birth control accessible to all)

“Every young person—no matter who they are, where they live or what their economic status might be—should have the power to decide if, when and under what circumstances to get pregnant and have a child. 

Support the high-impact program, policy and advocacy work of Power to Decide, the campaign to end unplanned pregnancy, with a donation today. Invest in a young person’s ability to get informed, take control, and advocate for themselves—and to protect the amazing life opportunities that lie ahead.”

 

 Planned Parenthood

 “Politicians in multiple states are passing laws that ban abortion at a point before most people know they're pregnant. These politicians want the Supreme Court to overturn Roe v. Wade and let these bans go into effect — ending safe, legal abortion in their states once and for all.

We won’t stand by while they take away our right to control our own bodies.”

 

GET LOUD:

 ·      Through this page, you can enter your zip code and find important rallies and events near you, or get on social media and search for #stoptheban

·      Post your thoughts to social media with the hashtag #stopthebans. If you have a powerful story about abortion and you feel compelled, I want to urge you to let it be heard. With so many voices piping up at once, it can feel pointless or overwhelming, but let me assure you: your story matters. You never know how far-reaching your narrative can be until you find the courage to share it. Even if you don’t have a personal experience with abortion, we ALL need to speak up right now.

*This is also the time to hold the men in our lives accountable. They have been allowed to either make the decisions or stand on the sidelines for entirely too long. We can’t force autonomous human beings to do things (sort of the point of this post), but we can call them out when they are being complacent and refuse to call it acceptable behavior.

·      Write to legislators to let them know that as a constituent, you do not stand by the abortion bans, and you expect them to make their stance clear as well. Especially if you are a constituent in Georgia, Alabama, or Ohio, I urge you to make phone calls and letters and encourage others around you to do the same.

  Here is the contact information for the legislators in Alabama and Georgia, and here is a link for finding your state representative if you live in any of the other 48 states:

 

Alabama:

Doug Jones- (D - AL)

Class II

330 Hart Senate Office Building Washington DC 20510

(202) 224-4124

 

Richard C. Shelby- (R - AL)

Class III

304 Russell Senate Office Building Washington DC 20510

(202) 224-5744

 

Georgia:

 

Johnny Isakson -  (R - GA)

Class III

131 Russell Senate Office Building Washington DC 20510

(202) 224-3643

 

David Perdue - (R - GA)

Class II

455 Russell Senate Office Building Washington DC 20510

(202) 224-3521

      Not sure how to word a letter or email to your legislators? I’ve written a template for you that you can copy, just be sure to add your signature or name at the bottom. When calling a representative, you can stick to a very similar script, just of course don’t say “Dear Senator” when they answer the phone:

 

Dear Senator ____________,

 

    I am writing about HB 314. Like many citizens, I stand in strong disagreement with the proposition of this bill and its strong vote to pass.

I believe that abortion is healthcare, and that every citizen in the United States capable of pregnancy and birth should have access to safe abortions, in any and all circumstances, and especially for those who have survived the horrors of rape and incest.

    As a constituent in our state of _________, I ask that you take a stance against HB 314 and vote in favor of reproductive rights for all. Many lives undoubtedly depend on it.

 

Thank you for your time,

 

__________________

LEARN:

 ·      Join one of Planned Parenthood’s virtual trainings on “How to Make the Most of Your Representative’s Recess.”

·      Read about the incidences of abortions in the U.S. and why the banning of abortion is a national health issue here.

·      Read stories from people who have chosen abortion and their take on the issues.

·      Read about the history of oppression and reproductive racism in the United States

  ______________________________________________________

The legislation that is being presented and voted through our system is horrifying and harmful. No one should have to fear prison time for seeking healthcare. This isn’t the first time our leaders have walked this path, and it won’t be the last. Let us remember the voices of those who have come before us and walked beside us in opposition to injustice and stand up. We owe it to them, we owe it to ourselves, and we owe it to our children. Don’t let those in danger walk alone.

 

 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post, and I hope that you are finding action in your anger, truth in your power, and peace when you need it. You may always reach out to me if you need to.

 

 

Love,

 

Kelsi

Instagram: @doulakelsi